This issue has been on my mind a lot. I’ve been single for about two weeks now. Frankly, I’ve been bored as hell. Partly due to the fact that it’s summer, though also because I have a lot more “me” time. If you’re newly single like me, you might not know what to do with yourself. But that’s ok, everyone goes through this after a breakup! If you’ve glued you heart back together by now, here are some tips to help you have a life again! (And lay off the cat videos and Hunger Games memes, now won’t you?
Not that you’re not a supermodel already, but we all have room to improve, as they say! Work on that post breakup image, girl! Now that you’re over sporting tissues and pajamas as your favorite accessories, it’s time to look at that pretty face in the mirror, You are beautiful, and guys do find you attractive, they’re just going to be different guys than the one you had previously. Take a bath, go to the spa, get your nails done, or buy new makeup. My personal favorite after a breakup is to scout out new skincare products to aid my oily, teenage skin. Not matter who you are, you can always use a pick me up! And while you’re doing this, you’re gonna look hot for the next guy who comes around! Talk about killing two birds with one stone!
2. Gym Time
After you’re over your guy, it’s time to get fit again! Maybe you ate too many cheetos or watched 13 Going On 30 a bazillion times. Whatever it is, maybe it’s got you feeling like couch potato. I’ve found that going to the gym both boosts my confidence and allows me to meet new people. You will feel so much better if you just get that ass off the couch and moving. It doesn’t matter if it’s zumba or weight training, exercise is a great cure for post breakup boredom. (And if this doesn’t convince you to go, imagine all the sexy, shirtless guys at the gym.)
3. Get Together With Your Girls
One no brainer I don’t even need to mention is spending more time with friends/family. This DOES NOT mean let your besties hook you up with a “genuinely nice” guy. Don’t do it, especially if you aren’t 100% over your ex. Having a night out with your friend or loved ones is a safe, logical idea. As long as you don’t choose to hang at a bar, you don’t have to worry about drunk texting your ex. Nor will you be drunk anywhere near your Grandpa Jo (hopefully), so there will be no accidents involving your cell phone and your ex.Your best bet is a casual family dinner out or a mall get together with your girls. You’ll be able to have the good clean fun that you didn’t have time for while in a relationship. Both you and your friends/family will benefit from this time spent together.
4. Read a Book
If reading makes you want to yawn and die in a hole, that’s odd because you’re reading a blog. In this free time you have, take the time to read about an interesting subject! It can be anything at all. I personally like to read self help books so that I can improve my advice on relationships, men, etc. It’s in my interest to help others with whatever they’re going through, therefore I read books that help me do that. Take out that ancient library card, scan the dusty shelves, and read to your heart’s content! Not only will it expand your knowledge, it will also help to pass the time after a breakup.
5. Pick Up a New Hobby
With more time on your hands, feel free to try something new. Whether it’s that old guitar in the corner of your room that’s begging to be played or that cooking class you’ve always dreamed of, go for it! Focusing on learning something new can distract your brain from all those sad memories that kept replaying themselves. Hobbies make you more well-rounded and appealing to the people around you. Don’t be afraid to spice up your life!
6. If All Else Fails…
If you’re dangerously bored at any moment and there’s nothing at all to do, reflect on life. One can learn positive things from even the most disastrous of relationships. You may realize and be thankful for blessings now that you hadn’t even acknowledged during the relationship. I can assure you that you have multiple, if not many, people in your life who love you and always will. You are here for a reason and it’s always your time to shine. The little things in life that we have every day are the ones with the most impact. Pondering positive thoughts, even if only for a few minutes, can take your mind off the negative aspects of life.
Good luck and I hope this post helped you as much as possible! I am always available to give advice and I care deeply about each and every one of you! Have a great day! 🙂